When Heads Come Together

Two heads are better than one the saying goes, but besides the obvious intellectual melding of minds, a much sweeter truth is communicated when two heads come together. 

A mommy rests her cheek against the soft hair of her child. A daddy, his son in his arms, leans to connect forehead to forehead. Bowing over a hospital bed, bending low, stretching to be close are all ways we show care. 

*photo by Philip Schroeder

So much is communicated in the sweet bond of bending down one head toward another, to brush cheeks, ear pressed next to ear. It strikes me how tender is the action of leaning towards, one head against another, as if the very pain of one transfers to the other. As if two heads together open thoughts and heart as one, breaking barriers and melting tension. 

How often we instinctively incline towards the one to whom our compassion is stirred.  

It is like God in His steadfast love to us. 

“I waited patiently for the Lord; he inclined to me and heard my cry. He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure.” Psalm 40:1-2 ESV

How beautiful is the image of a Heavenly Father bowing over me.     

“In your righteousness deliver me and rescue me; incline your ear to me, and save me!” Psalm 71:2 ESV

“Incline your ear to me; rescue me speedily!” Psalm 31:2 ESV

Like us, the Psalmist found himself over and over again in a place needing deliverance, rescue, and refuge. He wrote from a place of physical danger, emotional distress, and mental anguish. He sat in a waiting room of sorts, willing God to respond, crying like a child for the only one who could truly comfort. 

But, he knew beyond doubt that He could trust in the head and heart of the One who heard. Who saw. Who knew. Who inclined. Nata” in Hebrew, stretch out, extend, bend, bow.

*photo by Sylvia Schroeder

Have you pictured God bending toward you? Like a Grandma with a grandchild. Like a father with a son. Like one friend to another.

That tender intimacy of stretching toward, head to head, heart to heart offers hope and calms the turbulent wait.

For the Psalmist waited from inside a miry pit from which on his own strength he couldn’t rise. 

It’s walls were too slippery. It’s cavern was too steep. 

Sometimes our space is also too messy, our pieces too broken. We sit in that pit with its murky depths and cannot find the way out. 

David, in his heart’s plea knew the God of Refuge in this soft and tender space would also be His rock and fortress. He counted on it.    

“He drew me up from the pit of destruction, out of the miry bog, and set my feet upon a rock, making my steps secure.” Psalm 40:2 ESV

“for you are my rock and my fortress.” Psalm 71:3 ESV

“For you are my rock and my fortress; and for your name’s sake you lead me and guide me.” Psalm 31:3 ESV

Our lives grow toward Jesus or away in times of deep testing. We all go through them. And so, instinctively, you bring your head close to another’s, and wait. Your tears mingle, your heart moves from your chest to theirs, your prayers surround you both as one. 

This is what Jesus did.

When Jesus had received the sour wine, he said, “It is finished,” and he bowed his head and gave up his spirit.” John 19:30 ESV 

Because God inclined his head and heard my cry.   


*Feature photo by Sylvia Schroeder

18 Replies

  1. Lois S. Reply

    Thanks for pointing out that beautiful comfort, from God and each other. We were blessed to extend that kind of comfort to my husband’s parents during a recent health crisis.

    • Sylvia Schroeder Reply

      Thank you Lois. I’m so glad you were able to experience extending that comfort. What a blessing to others. Appreciate you reading and commenting.

  2. RJ Thesman Reply

    Loved “That tender intimacy of stretching toward, head to head, heart to heart offers hope and calms the turbulent wait.”

    • Sylvia Schroeder Reply

      Thanks RJ. I am so grateful you read it and commented. I love hearing from you!

  3. Jan Puffenberger Reply

    The picture of Phil, Roman, and Justin leaning their heads together brought tears to my eyes…thank the Lord for His Grace to lean into us in times of brokenness. I so look forward to your posts every Wednesday, Sylvia.

  4. J.D. Wininger Reply

    Grazie mille nonna. What wonderful images came to mind as I read your post. Thank you for the blessing of rest in Him this morning.

  5. Michelle Pajot Reply

    The imagery in this story brought tears to my eyes. God’s love for us is that profound! I recently started reading your blog and have been immensely blessed by them. Thank you for using your words to share God’s beauty and Holiness.

    • Sylvia Schroeder Reply

      Thank you so much Michelle. Welcome! I am honored God used this to direct your thoughts to Him. Thanks so much for sharing it with me!

  6. Linda Lou Brucato Reply

    Such a beautiful image! Thanks for sharing.

  7. Kathy Reply

    Beautiful post, Sylvia. Thank you!

  8. Cleo Waters Reply

    I had never considered or noticed the power when we lean onto each other’s head…. and the instances we do it. How profound. Thank you.

  9. Margaret Reply

    This post is well-timed for my family’s circumstances. I’m not one to comment often, but I wanted you to know that I appreciated it a lot and I’m printing a copy to send to my dad. Thank you!

    • Sylvia Schroeder Reply

      Thank you Margaret. I appreciate your response all the more! I do hope your dad also finds it helpful.